Following my last post on my feelings (a combination of excitement and anxiety) as a recent graduate, this post will include some helpful advice I learned from Meg Jay’s “The Defining Decade: Why your twenties matter and how to make the most of them now”.
I agree with my friends and family who tell me to not over think, and to cherish and focus on the present (thanks for calming me down :))— especially because this may be the only time we can actually be overwhelmed with the amount of options we have—so in a way, we might as well cherish it. But still, with all this uncertainty, it’s always helpful for me to hear from people who have gone through the same thing before. 🙂
Anyways, below are some of my favorite quotes from the book- I didn’t write much about the “relationship/love” part, but if you’re interested, in the book she also offers some great advice about relationship and marriage…which I guess is good to keep in the back of our mind too… Because after all, marriage is the family we choose, and who we marry will most likely determine a huge portion of our happiness. Anyways, I got off topic/started thinking too much again. Read below pls 🙂
- Identity capital is our collection of personal assets. It is the repertoire of individual resoures that we assemble over time. These are the investments we make in ourselves, the things we do well enough, or long enough, that they become a part of who we are…Identity capital is how we build oursevles– bit by bit, over time. Most important, identity capital is what we bring to the adult marketplace. It is the currency we use to metaphorically purchase jobs and relationships and other things we want.
- I always advice twentysomethings to take the job with the most capital.
- A degree from a university followed by too many unexplained retail and coffee-shop gigs looks backward. these sorts of jobs can hurt our resume and even our lives.
- I felt a lot of internal pressure to figure it out, but all the thinking I did was really debilitating and unproductive. The one thing I’ve learned is that you can’t think your way through life. the only way to figure out what to do is to do— something.
- “Yes is how you get your first job, and your next job, and your spouse, and even your kids. Even if it’s a bit edgy, a bit out of your comfort zone, saying yes means you will do something new, meet someone new, and make a difference.” -Eric Schmidt, executive chairman of Google
- “The more you use your brain, the more brain you will have to use.” -George A. Dorsey, anthropologist
- Twentysomething work and school are our best chance to acquire the technical, sophisticated skills needed in so many careers today…Twentysomething plans help us think across the years and decades ahead.
- “Inaction breeds fear and doubt. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conqure fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” -Dale Carnegie, writer and lecturer
RELATIONSHIP & OTHERS
- Whether we are talking about love or work, the confidence that overrides insecurity comes from experience. There is no other way.
- While the urban tribe (here it refers to your circle of close friends, the group you hangout with…etc) helps us survive, it does not help us thrive. The urban tribe may bring us soup when we are sick, but it is the people we hardly know- those who never make it into our tribe- who will swiftly and dramatically change our lives for the better.
- “…with what we now know about the maturation that goes on in one’s twenties, has led many to believe that when it comes to marriage, the later the better. This is not exactly what researchers are finding…And even though searching may help you find a better partner, the pool of available singles shallows over time, perhaps in more ways than one.” @_@
- “Other things may change us, but we start and end with family.” -Anthony Brandt, writer
- “Beauty is a greater recommendation than any letter of introduction.” -Aristotle (lol)
- Our personalities change more during the twentysomething years than at any time before or after.
- The future isn’t written in the stars. There are no guarantees. So claim your adulthood. Be intentional. Get to work. Pick your family. Do the math. Make your own certainty. Don’t be defined by what you didn’t know or didn’t do. You are deciding your life right now.
Sorry this post may be a little heavy 😛 But I hope you get something out of it.
I’d love to know what advice/quote you like the most, or if you disagree with anything in this post.
Sharon : )